The devil’s playground

Idleness is the enemy of the soul. Therefore, the brothers should have specified periods for manual labor as well as for prayerful reading. We believe that the times for both may be arranged as follows. … With these sentences St. Benedict begins chapter 48 of his influential Rules. I’ll spare you the history lesson except to say that his short …

A marriage counselor’s secret for conflict at work (or home), part2

Part 2! Mark interviews Mark Oelze, founder and director of PLEDGEtalk. Through more than 30 years as a marriage and family counselor, he developed the PLEDGE tool to help clients walk through the steps of healthy conflict. Mark says, “There is an ORDER to follow if one is to resolve conflict and restore healthy communication.” Clients are asking  him to …

A marriage counselor’s secret for conflict at work (or home), part 1

Mark interviews Mark Oelze, founder and director of PLEDGEtalk. Through more than 30 years as a marriage and family counselor, he developed the PLEDGE tool to help clients walk through the steps of healthy conflict. Mark says, “There is an ORDER to follow if one is to resolve conflict and restore healthy communication.” Clients are asking  him to share PLEDGE …

Want a hit? What are you putting in to your system?

Ryan Holiday, author of best-sellers about stoicism, has a researcher who I have discovered on Twitter: Billy Oppenheimer. He shares amazing stories of famous breakthroughs in art and business, with suggested (usually research-based) takeaways for each. The connection between two of these stories and takeaways caught me. (I’ve included the tweets below.) Folk artist Maggie Rogers had a viral breakthrough …

AI rewrites a memo: From foul-mouthed to corporate vanilla–is this a good thing?

Have you ever wanted to tell off a coworker? AI can help you … not get fired. A memo rewrite has gone viral–but is the rewrite really any better?  “Karen from Accounting” is going to be replaced … but what are the human soft skills that AI can’t replace? And could AI be a tool to help you engage with …

Just a few small words

My post encouraging people struggling with mental health inspired a reader to send this article: “Small acts of kindness matter more than you think.” Backed by tons of research, the article argues, “Text a friend, write a thank-you note, compliment a stranger — people appreciate these gestures.” Boy do they. If you give yourself a moment, you’ll be able to …

How you can get DISC wrong

This is the latest in a series about the DISC behavioral model. If you’re interested in taking Wylie’s DiSC assessment, I’d be happy to help. There are also lots of resources to explore on Hip Socket’s dedicated DISC page. Are you a “personality test skeptic?” Do you think all these letters and reports to describe people are a bunch of …